Hopefully, by now you realize it is to your benefit to ask for and receive feedback faithfully. If you are confident that you are better off to know the whole truth, people’s experiences and concerns will only light your path. Your success, your relationships, your performance all depend on positive and negative feedback. In fact, ask for it regularly!
Intentionally ask for feedback. Ask your spouse, parents, kids, friends, educators, colleagues, and anyone that you KNOW has experience or knowledge to share their opinions with you!
Specifically ask: “What do you see my limitations are?” “What do you see that is holding me back?” “What can I do to improve my chances of succeeding?” Or, “What can I do for you?” “What would it take to gain your confidence?” “What price is success?”
Of course, not all feedback appears useful, except as a means of confirmation you are heading in the right direction. However, if you are given the same advice from several people or resources, then give that advice serious consideration. Don’t let your ego warp your good sense. Would you rather be “right” or “successful.” If you ignore the majority opinion, you are likely to be alienated and unhappy.
How, exactly, should you respond to feedback?
Acknowledge each opinion and thank them for their thoughts. Do not argue. Write down the advice, when and from whom it came. Reflect on it. Explaining, justifying and blaming are just a waste of everyone’s time and reflects badly on you. Use what is valuable; put the rest aside. If you fail using anyone else’s advice, don’t point it out. Just take what you have learned from the experience and regroup. Refocus your vision. Recommit yourself to the path at hand. Keep moving forward toward fulfilling your dream.
In this way, you will not alienate anyone. In fact, you will draw closer to those you consulted because you let them know you value them. You will be a better person for it and more than likely find success!
Until next week….
Steve Anderson, Dream Engineer